Becoming a parent is exciting and comes with a lot of changes. Some of these changes are adorable and worthwhile, but other changes are some of the things you will not find in baby books. Here are seven things new parents go through, but no one openly talks about it.
You will accidentally hurt your child
It happens even to the best of parents who believe they have parenting waxed. At some stage, you will accidentally hurt your child because you were distracted for a split second or you didn't see them. You may feel like a horrible parent at the time but remember that these things sometimes happen.
Phantom cries are a thing
It is normal for new parents to hear a phantom cry as they are about to settle into their long-awaited nap. Only to find that your baby is fast asleep. These tend to go away over time so you don't have to worry about it.
It can get lonely sometimes
Postnatal depression is something that many women suffer from after giving birth. With the added responsibility of a baby and adjusting to being a mother, it can become hard.
Without the support structure to help you during this difficult time such as having your partner around, or enjoying the social life you once had, it's not uncommon to feel isolated.
Joining a mom group for social interaction can give you a support network of women who understand what you are going through. Don't forget to pamper yourself once in a while by asking a trusted friend or family member to take care of your baby while you enjoy some ‘me time.’
Your breast milk will come in gradually but not immediately. It may take a couple of days for your body to provide your baby with milk, but in most cases, your body will release colostrum to feed your baby. You may have to switch to powdered milk if this doesn't happen, but it is crucial to consult with your doctor. Breast pads will be a great investment during this time when it comes to preventing leakages through your shirt.
It can take time to get rid of the baby weight
Your body has gone through an amazing experience of housing your baby and finally giving birth. It also means that your body will not be the same compared to your pre-pregnancy. However, with the new changes in your life that keep many women busy, they find it hard to go back to their pre-baby bodies. Give yourself time to reach your weight goal post partum. After all, you did spend 9 months putting on the healthy weight to protect, feed and nurture your baby!
Mom shaming is a real thing
It can seem like everyone has an opinion on how you are supposed to be taking care of your child, especially when it comes to social media. You are shamed for how you look, for doing too little or for doing too much which can be confusing and frustrating at most. Try to move into what works for you and your family and stick to it and don’t let what people say on social media affect you.
Date nights kind of trickle out
The days where you watch a movie and complete it or go out for dinner may seem few and far between, but remember that this is just a season. You can consider getting a baby sitter or a trusted family member to take care of them while you go to treat each other.